Want to get an important project written? Then 'making it a priority' sounds like a good idea - but it can have the reverse effect. Plus, links to round up our month of noticing.
This was such a breakthrough for me & it coincided with my own experience writing a novel on the side.
My novel is clearly not a priority. In fact, it is in conflict with my other writing, business and life goals. With a submission deadline for my writing group fast approaching, I was feeling blocked and overwhelmed by the task, that I SHOULD prioritise it, MUST make time for it.
I realised, that it because it’s not a priority I could take the pressure off. I choose to write this novel so why make it a thing of pain? Instead, have some fun! You know what, I made more progress in the last week than I have in months, because it wasn’t this massive burden any more.
Nothing causes me to freeze up than *having* to write something (you should see me try and write a birthday card...) so this pressure problem makes a lot of sense to me.
Having said that, I think prioritisation can be good if you're prioritising *yourself*, rather than the project. Finding a bit of time where you don't feel like you should be doing something else, for someone else. Easier said than done if you have one of those things people always talk about getting. You know, a life...
Neal - you are so right. We absolutely need to prioritise ourselves and I reckon at heart we know that what we want is important and valuable and worth our time. But what stops us - well that's a whole other matter. Still figuring it out :)
I'm so pleased it's not just me! At heart we know what is important - what's stopping us isn't that, it's usually a bundle of psychology and just being, well, humans.
This was such a breakthrough for me & it coincided with my own experience writing a novel on the side.
My novel is clearly not a priority. In fact, it is in conflict with my other writing, business and life goals. With a submission deadline for my writing group fast approaching, I was feeling blocked and overwhelmed by the task, that I SHOULD prioritise it, MUST make time for it.
I realised, that it because it’s not a priority I could take the pressure off. I choose to write this novel so why make it a thing of pain? Instead, have some fun! You know what, I made more progress in the last week than I have in months, because it wasn’t this massive burden any more.
Amazing and timely advice. I love your work. Reading your book at the moment and these newsletters are like mini pep talks. Thank you!
Grace that means so much. We're here for all the pep talks you need - keep going!
Thank you Grace :)
Nothing causes me to freeze up than *having* to write something (you should see me try and write a birthday card...) so this pressure problem makes a lot of sense to me.
Having said that, I think prioritisation can be good if you're prioritising *yourself*, rather than the project. Finding a bit of time where you don't feel like you should be doing something else, for someone else. Easier said than done if you have one of those things people always talk about getting. You know, a life...
Neal - you are so right. We absolutely need to prioritise ourselves and I reckon at heart we know that what we want is important and valuable and worth our time. But what stops us - well that's a whole other matter. Still figuring it out :)
I'm so pleased it's not just me! At heart we know what is important - what's stopping us isn't that, it's usually a bundle of psychology and just being, well, humans.